THE 12 POUNDS OF CHRISTMAS
THE 12 POUNDS OF CHRISTMAS: HOW TO BEAT BACK A BULGING HOLIDAY WAISTLINE
BLOGGER: JARED DEFIFE, PHD
Did you pledge to slim your waistline in 2009, but find yourself packing on a few extra pounds this holiday season? Here are a few ways to get your pants to fit again for 2010.
-Assess yourself
Put on your Sherlock Holmes hat and take a good look at your life and health habits over the past month. Were your holiday feasts a little too filling? Did you mindlessly graze through the sweets and snacks that were left out for the taking? Have too many cocktails at your cocktail parties? Were you less active than usual? Did feeling more down or depressed leave you with less motivation to take care of yourself? Have you been eating more as a way to cope with feelings of sadness or loneliness? Developing a meaningful measure and understanding of your behavior goes a long way towards effectively identifying goals for change. Keeping track with food logs or activity calendars is a great way to record your achievements and identify problem areas.
-Don’t repress yourself
Gaining weight can be disappointing, especially if you’ve spent a lot of effort trying to lose it. When people get upset or disappointed, I often hear them say that they know they should just “let it go”, “move past it”, or “forget about it”. I think that’s a load of hooey. Those are trite little psychobabble platitudes with the implicit message that feelings are bad and you shouldn’t have them. Anyone who has been hurt or disappointed knows that you don’t just “forget about it”. Feelings are inevitable; when you stop feeling, you stop living. How you choose to act on your feelings is the point where behavior becomes more or less adaptive. If you feel disappointed and angry over your holiday weight gain, you can choose to let those feelings shut you down, or you can let those feelings motivate you towards new behavior.
-To forgive is divine
Getting down on yourself for your holiday hedonism isn’t particularly helpful for anything. Regretfully ruminating about those two extra Christmas cookies you ate or that full day you spent on the couch watching football doesn’t burn cookie calories or turn couch surfing into cardio calisthenics. Feelings of shame and guilt about your holiday weight gain can quickly become demoralizing, undermining your motivation to eat wisely and stay active. Remember that when it comes to holiday weight gain, you are not alone. American adults gain on average around 1 to 2 lbs each year, mostly around the winter holidays. It’s not a crime to be a little self-indulgent. Try to look fondly on the parts of your holidays filled with good times and good food. Don’t let a couple extra pounds hold you down too much.
-…but don’t let yourself off the hook
Self-forgiveness does not mean shirking all personal responsibility. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own actions and indulgences. Take responsibility without blaming (yourself or anyone else). There is a fine line between understanding the effects of a situation and blaming that situation for the consequences. For example, it may be a very useful insight to identify that a streak of bad weather prevented a couple of your daily runs. What you do with that insight is what makes all the difference. Blaming the weather for your inactivity and waiting for the sun to shine won’t do you any good. Knowing that winter weather keeps you housebound and preparing for that by planning indoor aerobic activities for when the snow hits turns an insightful understanding into effective behavior change.
-Make it about the process, not about the poundage
Scales can be useful diagnostic tools. However, scale watching is a lot like whale watching. Every now and then you get an exciting result, but there’s also a lot of inactivity and even disappointment. Staying active with regular exercise and eating a sensible daily diet should be much more important than the number at your feet on any given day.
-Get support
You should always let your physician know about your diet and exercise goals and routines. A psychotherapist can also work with you in developing your personal goals, tracking your progress, guiding your emotions away from self-loathing and towards self-achievement, and identifying if you’ve dipped below winter blues and into a more significant depression. Enlist a few close and supportive friends for encouragement and the occasional reality check. It takes a village to lose a pound, so groups like Weight Watchers, recreational clubs, and sports teams are great for guidance, support, and social networking.
Jared DeFife, Ph.D. is a research scientist in clinical psychology at Emory University and Associate Director of the Laboratory for Personality and Psychopathology. He writes a regular blog for Psychology Today at www.tinyurl.com/jdefife.
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