Comments on: Grouchy Gals: How Men Let Women Down

By: Lawrence Josephs, Ph.D.

Lawrence Josephs, Ph.D. — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 21:31:20 +0000

Brad is absolutely right that no one is perfect, women as well as men go through rough times, and we all should be cut some slack. But some women are angry because some men play games, make promises they don’t keep, and don’t assume responsibility for their short-comings which are more chronic than transient issues. We shouldn’t rationalize those kinds of problems away and just act like angry women are “only” making mountains out of molehills by expecting men to live up to unrealistic fairy tale expectations.

By: Brad

Brad — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 15:26:25 +0000

This is such BS. So if a man goes through trials and tribulations and a stressful period in his life he isn’t allowed to step out of the fairy tale “knight in shining armor role” at all? Welcome to reality where “shit happens” and no one is perfect. Lasting relationships require patience and love, not an “oh no things aren’t going my way this week, time to go looking for someone who’ll treat me better” attitude!

By: Lawrence Josephs, Ph.D.

Lawrence Josephs, Ph.D. — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 14:03:33 +0000

I heartily endorse Ron’s point for both men and women. If you’re too emotionally dependent in a relationship you can’t really stand up for yourself effectively and you just build up resentment if you feel your partner takes advantage of your dependency.

By: Ron C. de Weijze

Ron C. de Weijze — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:25:46 +0000

Very true, all this rings to me. I would like to comment on “emotional dependency”. Since we all (presumably) strive for a better way of living together, on a higher moral/ethical level, we need to be more emotionally independent and seek and follow any confirmation of that, especially in the first stages of a relationship. It works just like any confirmation, often just rationally, that is best before it becomes dependent. To stay emotionally independent seems hard when you are in a relationship but let me tell you: *it is the best way to preserve it*. There is a good reason for men and woman to be different human beings, play different roles in society, be enigma’s for one another that the other will always keep circling around like around any secret.